El Doctor Amor
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Dear Doctor,
I came to live in San Pedro since February. When I arrived I met one of
my friends which I was going to school with and she offered me help. Months
later I met this Englishman. I was with this guy for over three months. The
man had a lot of money but believe me Doctor I love this man. Although
people use to tell me to never get in love with foreigners I still did. Now
my so call good friend slept with the man without I knowing, being a
hypocrite, talking to me and visiting me and my friend at the hotel where he
was staying and also going with me me to my hometown and sleep on my bed.
Weeks after the man left the island and I found out about my friends unloyal
friendship I told her not to talk to me anymore because he was a hypocrite.
She turn back and told me I was the hypocrite 'cause the man has gone and I
don't want to be her friend. She told me that the man was not value nothing
'cause he's gone. Doctor I loved this man with all my heart. I never fell in
love before and because I still love him I cannot forgive my friend. I would
like your advice if I should give her another break.
Still in love
Dear In Love,
When someone who claims to be a friend sleeps with someone you love, the
feelings of betrayal are hard to overcome. On the other hand, good friends
are rare and it always hurts to lose one. Perhaps there is a way to look at
the situation that will make it easier to keep your friendship alive.
Try thinking of it this way. Unless your friend is much bigger and
stronger than this Englishman, he went into the situation willingly. Chances
are good that he even initiated the action. Put it this way; your friend was
not alone in that bed and it took two people to betray you.This does not
excuse your friend's behavior at all, but perhaps she does have a point
about the value of this man's love. No matter how much he may have been
tempted, he should have resisted. Your friendship has been devaluated,
likewise. No matter how much she may have been tempted, she should have
resisted.
Dear Doctor Love,
This is a subject which no one in my family wants to talk about, but I
feel like it has to be mentioned. My father is getting to be very old and no
one wants to discuss what we will do about burying him when he dies. I say
we should take up a collection now between his children and the
grandchildren so we can be prepared for his funeral. No one else wants to
discuss it because they think the subject shouldn't come up until he passes
away. What if it happens at the same time as another emergency? I say it's
best to be prepared. Also, let me say that this is not about inheritance
because my father has already given the children all of his property. Also,
he is too old to get an insurance policy.
What do you think?
Concerned son
Dear Son,
You have an excellent point. Preparation is always preferable to
scrambling about at the last minute looking for funds. Unfortunately, most
families are squeamish about that kind of thing. You go right ahead and put
your share aside now and don't say anything to the rest of the family. At
least you'll be ready.
Dear Doctor,
It is so good to have a week of good weather after the terrible rain we
had in mid-November. Now, I'm not one to complain but we got more rain than
we deserved last month. We also got a lot less than we needed back in May.
Why do you suppose this is? Don't scientists seed the clouds like they used
to do in the 1960's to make it rain? What is going on?
Weatherhead
Dear Weatherhead,
Did you read the article about the depletion of the ozone layer in last
week's San Pedro Sun? Believe the Doctor, it definitely has a bearing on the
crazy weather the world has been experiencing in the last few years. Even if
legislation from all of the major countries in the world does take effect it
looks as though ozone depletion won't be under control until the middle of
the next century.
It could be worse than it is now. Remember,even bad weather is better
than no weather.
Dear Doctor Love,
Things have not been going very well for me lately. I am beginning to
think that someone has done obeah on me or something. Do you think there is
any such thing as good and bad luck? Can it be changed?
Unlucky
Dear Unlucky,
A great poet once said that shallow men believe in luck. Strong men
believe in cause and effect. Emerson was right; luck is an individual thing
that each of us create for ourselves. The Doctor is also familiar with the
saying - The harder I work, the luckier I get. If you believe you are
unlucky and sit around hoping your luck will change, you can bet your luck
will stay bad. If you get out and work hard, you can bet your luck will
change for the better.
Dear Doctor Love,
There are a lot of crazy people on this island. I moved here last year
and thought it was because people are so different than they are in Cayo.
Now I know better. There are also some people that are really rude,
especially young men. Sometimes I am afraid to pass the places where they
are hanging around because of the things they say to me. Why do they let
crazy people out on the streets, here instead of keeping them locked up?
Afraid
Dear Afraid,
An old saying on this island is that we have just as many crazy people
as the mainland. We just aren't ashamed of them. Don't worry about the rude
boys. They're just little boys with big radios who want to be men.
