Pot meet Kettle

    Friend: *cough, cough* Wanna hit?
    Me: No thanks *rolls eyes*
    Friend: Come on dude � just a little bit.
    Me: NO! THANKS!
    Friend: You�re gonna let me smoke by myself?
    Me: You could stop

    Friend: Nah, it�s fun. Why don�t you wanna?
    Me: When I have kids, and I�m giving them the �Don�t do drugs talk� I�d like to be able to say I never did it myself.
    Friend: You suck. You�re boring.
    Me: Oh yeah? You�re just mad I�m not smoking with you.
    Friend: Bet when you grow up you�ll do it.
    Me: Whatever.
    Friend: You�ll do something else. Everyone does drugs eventually.
    Me: No-uh�I�m NEVER doing drugs!




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    Fast forward a few years later, and the amount of cigarettes and alcohol I have ingested more than make up for the one or two tokes I may have had. But considering my instant addiction to the cigarettes, I may be a loser pot head still living at home driving my father crazy. So who knows? The possibilities are endless as to what my future could have been, but I always believed I could not possibly be that parent telling her children not to do something when I�d done it myself.

    It�s far easier to realize that we will all grow up to be hypocrites anyway, and live a little. Besides, if I really didn�t want to partake in such behavior, maybe I didn�t need to mingle with the crowd. At least I was hanging out with the cool kid � ha, so much for avoiding peer pressure.

    It�s no different when you get older. You want to fit in, but you�re a bit more defined, and in your mind, you know what you don�t want to become. I don�t want to become an embittered shrew, or the gossipy bitch that knows everyone�s business, and meddles with everyone�s lives. But conversation, especially in a small community, is often laced with gossip, a dash of malice, a generous sprinkling of negativity and just a smidge of self-righteousness. �Well, I hate to talk, but did you know that ��

    It�s so easy to get caught in that web.

    Telling oneself, and others for that matter, that you should treat others as you want to be treated yourself, well, that�s a given. Actually living that rule is another thing. We can all pass judgment on others, claiming to be offended by their actions, words, whatever, but it truly is a matter of throwing stones from the proverbial glass casita. What we do, how we do it, and who it affects, could be misconstrued by some � they may take offense at the manner in which we accomplish things. Those who don�t believe in what we stand for will always be offended � and is it really worth losing time and energy trying to convince them otherwise?

    Hence it is a pleasure to meet like-minded people who enjoy a laugh, good conversation and discovery of mutual affections, people who screw up but can accept (and laugh at) their faults. That�s not to say we�ll ever say we never gossip. But it is refreshing to acknowledge our faults and not be judged by those who matter most. We may not like everything our friends stand for, but we can look past that because we know there are some not-so-nice parts of us that they�re also ignoring.

    My point: I don�t really even know at this rate what my point is (duh) � but I do know that when I wrote that subject line I didn�t mean to make a pun! I guess it is about acceptance and learning to live with ourselves before we can live with others. We�re not getting any younger, and the stage where we can take our toys and leave the playground in a huff is long gone. It�s probably best to accept we�ll never make everyone happy, and live caring for what we stand for, and in turn, what our friends stand for as well. Share the toys, and if a few get broken, it�s all about growing up.

I still hang out with my abovementioned friend � and he did find it in him to quit. No nagging from me, promise! He�s got no children yet, but I cannot wait for when he does! I so want to be in on the big �Don�t do drugs� conversation! ����������



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